I received so many hate messages because I’m fat that I almost started to hate my body again

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Ever since I landed an amazing job at Revelist.com I have been lucky enough to make videos that help explain the experience of being a fat person in this world. You can find sarcastic videos like the day I found out I was fat to videos with deeper messages like – not allowing the number on a scale define who you are.

The mission of my blog was to help myself be a much bolder person. I wanted to be the person I knew I was on the inside. I turned that around and I used my biggest “flaw” and made it into a career.

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As the success of the videos increased so has the hate.  I have never been someone who lingers on the negative. I’ve always been upbeat and happy. But I would be a complete liar if I didn’t say that hate messages and comments have been taking a toll on my self-confidence. For the past few months, I have had a hard time looking at myself in the mirror. The constant battle of reminding myself that I am enough gets harder when strangers online tell you that you aren’t.

The result of these messages and comments have made it hard for me to truly accept my body like I once did. It hurts me to say that because it makes me feel like I let them win.

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I didn’t realize how much it was affecting my self-esteem until I started going through these images I shot with my friend Stephanie Nadia. All I could see was my fuller belly. I was ready to delete those images and shoot an outfit that would be “flattering.”

I asked myself, why? Why should I hide my body just because others may think it’s unflattering? Regardless if I want to lose weight or not I deserve respect and to feel proud of who I am. I worked so hard to be as confident as I am. I get hundreds of messages daily from men and women of different walks of life thanking me for introducing them to a new world of self-love and body positivity. This was the reason why I decided to make this my career. If seeing my body and videos can help at least one person a day to feel better about themselves than it is all worth it.

So, as long as YOU want to read my words and watch my videos I will continue to make them. This is a reminder to all of you who may be having a hard time accepting and loving your body. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your body and you don’t need to apologize. 

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Most items I am currently wearing are sold out. Check the links below for items that are similar.

Jacket: Old Navy sold out but similar one here.

Top: Old navy in stripes available here.

Jeans: Forever21

Shoes: Asos similar here.

Bag: Lovesick similar here.

Hat: Similar here.

5 Replies to “I received so many hate messages because I’m fat that I almost started to hate my body again”

  1. Hi Jessica, I’m a plus size woman, too. I love clothes as well but until now, I can’t be as brave as you are and post whole body photos. You’re beautiful and don’t let other people tell you otherwise. 🙂 I really admire your bravery. Hope we can be friends. 🙂

  2. Hola Jessica, eres una mujer hermosa y sobre todo una mujer valiente, siempre miro tus publicaciones y admiro tu estilo y forma de ser, no dejes que nadie te quite eso, sigue adelante!!! MF

  3. Hi Jessica. I’ve been exploring body positivity and fat acceptance for a little while now. And in that time I’ve yet to see someone proudly rock their body (a body that looks like my own….) the way you are in the photos above. You’ve triggered something wonderful inside of me. And for that, I will forever be grateful.

  4. Jessica, your videos have given me life. I appreciate your work and your voice. You uplift me. You make me feel like I am worthy. Please do not stop. I need your presence in this world because for once, I can see a representation of someone I can relate to. I wonder about how much of a better, healthy person I could have been if I had women like you in media, when I was a kid. Heck, if this whole movement began even in my teens or twenties it would have helped soooo much. Now that it’s happening, it needs to flourish. It can’t do that, we can’t do that, without you. Keep going and keep inspiring and keep slaying the fashion!!

  5. I’m so sorry to hear that the trolls have gotten to you! I for one am so glad that I found your blog — there aren’t a lot of fat acceptance, body positive blogs out here, and I really like your style, too. I hope that blogging does some of the same things for me as you said it did for you — to be bolder and to find my voice.

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