As a plus-size woman, I was constantly told to wear clothes that would flatter my body. That mostly meant creating the illusion of having an hourglass shape. I was given my first full body shapewear before I hit my teens. Clearly being anything but an hourglass shape was wrong.
I missed out on so many outfits because it wasn’t “flattering.” I have been able to run away from that mindset and live the most fashionable life I can but occasionally those thoughts still linger in the back of my head.
When I was shopping for my trip to Puerto Rico I came upon this embroidered dress. I could picture myself walking down the colorful streets of San Juan looking good as hell but the self-doubt had me thinking twice about it. I was afraid the shapeless fit of the shirt dress would make me seem wider and fatter. I slept on it for a few days before I decided to buy it.
I started to question why I thought I needed to fake an hourglass shape. Why is looking fat the worse outcome? I still have a lot of self fat-shaming to unlearn but I’m glad I went with my gut on this one (no pun intended) and bought the shirt dress. I can’t let societies idea of what a ‘good body’ looks like keep me away from a great outfit.
Fashion over fear always.
Shop my look:
Dress: Asos Curve
Photos were taken by Marianne Espinosa.
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