Jessica Torres

Yes, you should go to prom even if you’re fat



It’s been 9 years since prom of ’08 happened and I still regret not going. I was so afraid and embarrassed about my body that I missed out on what could have been such a fun and memorable night.

I wasn’t always comfortable with my body. Before the days of posing in bathing suits and sexy lingerie, I hated the way I looked.



I dedicated a lot of my time to weight loss. Certain diets worked but I was never skinny enough.  I spent so much time trying to reach my “weight goal” that I was missing out on life.

When I was younger I used to dream about the day I would finally be thin. I thought my problems would be magically solved.

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I thought I would finally be brave enough to talk to cute guys and that high school would run so much smoother.

In the meantime, I made sure I was invisible. I dressed in baggy shirts and I was extremely awkward when I spoke to people. 


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I am such a silly and outgoing person but my friends in High School never saw that side of me.

That meant that I missed out on a lot. I didn’t go to prom because I was so afraid to have eyes on me. 

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Prom was the night all teenage girls were meant to feel like real life princesses. I would hear my friends talk about what they were going to wear and who they were going with.

I stood on the sideline wishing I would’ve allowed myself to be part of such an important night. 

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I remember my homeroom teacher insisting I go. Even the night before she offered to buy me a dress. I kindly declined even though I really wanted to go. I remember thinking that my skinny friends would look like the girls in the movies and I wouldn’t. I didn’t know that you could be fat and still look fierce.

I will never have prom night again and that is something that I will have to live with forever.

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I realized that it’s not about what you wear or what size you are. Everyone deserves to experience life. 

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We shouldn’t let our fears stop us from living. There are so many things that we won’t be able to get back. It does not matter what size you are, you are allowed to live and experience life like everyone else. Don’t let your fears and insecurities stop you from living and experiencing life.

Here are some dresses you should consider:

  • Maria


    Me, the same.My highs school prom was in the 2012 and I missed also the prom of new students from college. And I throw up college after 6 or 7 months because I couldn’t integrate and because of bullying, I thought there will be mature people but…just like that I lost 5 years of my life. Also my job is a nightmare. Always I tried to not disturb people with “my person”, my presence, but people are people.Yeah, in this moment my life is ruined, but somehow I am still an optimistic person. I think I have the same weight like you 100 kilos (don’t know lbs) and 152 cm height, but I am not beautiful as you, I am just fat and uglly. I am glade that I find you, you really inspire me as a lifestyle, your outfits, your make-up and your personality. With every article you gave me power to see that even if I am fat, I am also a human being and a woman, and not anybody should likes me, because firstly I am the person that I should like myself. Thank you,Jessica!!! Stay strong and healthy!!! And be happy even more!!! (sorry for my mistakes I am not English native)

    June 11, 2017
    • Carmen


      Hi Maria, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You need to learn to love yourself. I was like you when I was younger. Remember that the only opinion that matters is your and the people you love. Change how you think about yourself and I know that you will see how beautiful and special you are. Be happy and kind to yourself because you are awesome. Trust me. Remember you are the beautiful person inside that you are out. Be well. 👸

      July 31, 2017
  • Cassia


    Your thoughts are exactly mine, and i’m Glad I read this now because my prom is just two weeks away! All of high school I was focused on extreme diets, workouts, and admiring pictures of skinny girls, waiting for the day I would be beautiful. I’m still having trouble with self confidence at the moment, but it’s inspiring posts like these that allow me to rethink. Thank you!

    May 6, 2019